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Maturity vs. Being childish

This is irrelevant to me, I just see this a lot all over Facebook so I feel like writing about it.

I think people have a misconception on what the word “mature” means. I often times see it being confused with the action of being “childish”. Quick lesson for ya.

If you pride yourself or boast about being a mature human being, then I’d assume that means any confrontation you have with peers/family/significant other will not be aired like dirty laundry. The occasional vent is tolerable of course, if everyone kept their feelings inside, we may just all explode. But when every other public status on your social media sites are about another person who has done you wrong in some way, you need take a step back and look at yourself instead. Because those snide remarks and bashings say a lot more about you than the person you are talking about. Not to mention there are numerous old sayings, very much truthful that state, “if you are going to point your finger at someone, make sure your hands are clean” and “treat others as you would like to be treated”. So if you are going to publicly “hate on” someone, you are no better than they are. The ideal mature thing to do is to confront said person without an audience. It makes for a better outcome all around I believe. If there is drama, it’s done and over with because the moment you stop bringing it up and talking about it, it does this magical thing…it goes away! And if there’s a way to salvage this relationship with said person, it has a way better chance of rekindling.

Also another big one, if you are fighting with you significant other, you don’t have to make it known. I love scrolling through my news feed and seeing “I love him so much” then the next I see “you want to flirt with other girls, fine two can play this game”. I mean damn, you’re even friends with your s/o and possibly the other subject person, you may as well tag them if you are that fearless. The way I see it, talking about your significant other publicly in a negative way every time you fight is asking for a break up. And I know I’ve vented on here before about my husband, but its little nit picky things that are normal that I myself need to get over, not to mention they’ve been brought up between us and fixed, and tumblr, though public, is not a social media website that I have actual real life friends following me, where as Facebook and twitter are all people I and my husband know personally. It’s just a lot easier for a quarrel to be settled in a relationship when you don’t have others getting involved. You’d think that would be common sense, and yet we find ourselves upset when someone interjects after reading up on the daily drama.

So let’s recap-
Mature - confronting without audience, not airing your dirty laundry. Ignoring the drama and consciously making the decision to be the better person.
Childish - slandering publicly constantly and making it everyone’s business when the whole entire world was not involved in the incident that happened between you and another person in the first place.

Also, I think a beneficial way to avoid drama is to understand that not everyone agrees with you, everyone has opinions. So if you cant handle others giving you criticism or opinions, then don’t give them an option to, or go about it in an understanding way.

Not like people don’t understand these concepts, everyone is guilty of doing this at one time or another, but I feel sometimes everyone needs a refresher. Stop being hypocritical and so narrow minded, stop looking to get even, and life may just be less dramatic like you constantly wish for. I hope this helped.

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mini vent.

tom is supposed to be home sometime before our anniversary. i hadn’t made any appointments or reservations yet, but i wanted to do a couples massage (which we’ve done before in the past), a dinner cruise in san diego, and have our bedroom all set up with candles and things like that for us to go home to. well i had mentioned the massage before and he was all for it. when i bring it up this time, he says “that’d feel bomb. or we could stay home” ……………………………………really. and no, that isn’t his sneaky way of having something else planned for us. i was all excited to have the day planned, like a small getaway for relaxation. and it really is always left up to me to plan our special days together…and lately with the special days I’ve tried to plan, he shoots all my ideas down (massages, FREE admission to some of the parks here, mini golfing, movies, beach, literally everything). and when i ask for him to come up with something then, he can’t think of anything. or he gives in, and that just makes me feel bad in itself…like sorry, i don’t want to do it now because i don’t want to feel like i forced you to do something you don’t want to do. when he wants to do something, whether i am interested in it or not, i gladly partake, because i know it’s something he wants to do and i love him. i guess i don’t get reciprocation. well i told him straight up he needs to think of things he would want to do around then, and he says “will do”. glad to see he’s so excited about our wedding anniversary.

and then he said he was going to go take a nap, which kind of made me a little more upset.

pmsing. i blame it on my pms. or i’ll just use that for an excuse as to why i feel upset because my husband acts like a baby because he only wants to do something if it is really something HE wants to do.

-.- ugh. end mini-ish vent.

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Just started his final deployment. Once he’s back he’ll have under a year left till his contract is up, and then it’s back to the east coast and living a normal life. 5 years in when all is said and done, and it seems like just yesterday he left my house to leave for boot camp. Time, hurry on up please!

Just started his final deployment. Once he’s back he’ll have under a year left till his contract is up, and then it’s back to the east coast and living a normal life. 5 years in when all is said and done, and it seems like just yesterday he left my house to leave for boot camp. Time, hurry on up please!

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